Your Self-Esteem Affects Your Dating Life

Jul 23, 2021

Hey hopeful romantic,

I’ve talked many times about how the way you think about yourself affects your love life. In fact, one of my favorite quotes of all time is from Perks of Being A Wallflower and has to do with self-worth in dating:

“We accept the love we think we deserve.”

Now, I’m not here to spout that “you have to love yourself first before someone else can” crap because that’s simply not true. But what I do want to talk about is how low self-worth can affect your love life.

But first…

I’ve put together a ✨ new workshop ✨ to teach you all about healthy communication.

If you’ve read my content for some time, you know that communication is my favorite thing to talk about when it comes to relationships. Many relationship issues boil down to poor communication.

This workshop is for you if:

You and your partner argue about the same problem over and over.
You have trouble getting your point across.
You don't feel understood during a fight.
You always feel small or disrespected.
You shut down or withdraw from your partner.
You're terrified one bad fight will end your relationship.

Like last time, tickets are limited, so make sure to grab yours soon! Also, if you can’t make the live workshop, I will send out a recording after.

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You’re less likely to draw boundaries.

Part of creating boundaries with people is knowing how you do and don’t want to be treated. But if you’re someone who doesn’t know your own worth, you may let people act however they want with you.

Your insecurities are more likely to affect your love life.

This could make you feel extreme jealousy. You might also feel like your partner will suddenly leave you at any moment. These beliefs change the way you behave and the choices you make.

You could stay in relationships for other reasons besides love.

Take it from someone who’s made this choice before: if you feel insecure about other aspects of your life like finances or “looking cool,” you might get into relationships purely to solve that issue.

You could end up in a lackluster relationship.

If you deeply want to be loved by someone (because you don’t love yourself), you may stay in a relationship where you don’t love the person back.

You may stay in toxic relationships.

With a deep desire for someone to love you, you’re more willing to look past certain behaviors, even ones that are obviously toxic. That’s why it’s crucial to get an outside opinion if you think your relationship is psychologically hurting you.

Which of those do you struggle with?

Next week, we’ll talk about how to increase your self-worth.

Until then!

All the love,

Kirstie