Your Love Mindset Matters
Hey hopeful romantic,
Before I get into this week’s topic, I’d love your opinion on my next project. I’m currently putting together a program for anxious daters to feel more secure.
If that sounds like you, I’d be so appreciative if you filled out my 10-question survey!
I want to create the best program to help people who feel anxious in their love lives, so your insight means a lot to me!
This week, let’s talk about the thoughts you have about yourself and your love life. I’ve been working through a book and workshop about shifting your mindset to bring in the life you want. So mindset has been on my.. well, mind.. a lot.
Now, if you’re thinking, “That’s ridiculous. Your thoughts can’t change your life,” you should consider otherwise. People’s mindsets greatly affect how they feel about themselves which affects their decisions and how they act with people.
Still don’t believe me? Here’s an excellent article from Stanford.
A great way to begin shifting your mindset away from the limiting beliefs you have is to start recognizing those negative thoughts and then replacing them with new ones.
Over time, you’ll notice those negative thoughts disappearing and the positive ones taking a deeper hold on you.
So here are a few common negative thoughts people have and positive or neutral thoughts you can replace them with:
I’m not enough. ----→ I am enough, and the right person will see that.
I can’t trust anyone. ----→ I’ve been hurt in the past, but that doesn’t mean everyone is untrustworthy.
I’ll never find love. ----→ I’ll eventually find love, but it’s a process that can’t be rushed.
I’m always the problem. ----→ I struggle with things, just like anyone else, but that doesn’t make me a problem.
Everyone will leave me. -----→ Eventually, someone will stay.
All [insert people you date] are trash. -----→ Some [insert people you date] aren’t good people, but there are some out there who are.
It’s astonishing how much our thoughts control how we experience the world. When you start to think the way your ideal self would, you start to become that person.
At the very least, give these mindset shifts a try for a few weeks. Right down what all happens for you. Reflect on the process.
What’s the worst that could happen?
Until next week!
All the love,
Kirstie
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