What's Taboo In Your Relationship?

Jul 02, 2021

Hey there!

This week was hectic. My boyfriend and I moved from our apartment in West Los Angeles to the valley in Woodland Hills.

We didn’t plan things well. At all. It took much longer than it needed to.

But this move made me think about how little I’ve talked about moving in with a partner. Technically, this is the fourth boyfriend I lived with. Luckily, this move was the most rational of those four.

One of the biggest differences between living with my current boyfriend and the dumpster fires that occurred before was one thing: being ready.

Now you might be thinking, “but how could you have known you were ready??”

And the answer is simple. We hadn’t gotten to a point where we were comfortable enough to talk about taboo subjects.

So this week, I want to talk about those taboo topics and why it’s so important to talk about them with your partner before making big life decisions.

Money

Learning how to handle money together sets your relationship up for financial happiness. Even if you’ve only been dating for a year, getting a shared credit card or deciding who pays for what can start that conversation.

If you and your partner still dance around any sort of money talk, then consider changing that. Either bite the bullet and finally bring it up yourself, or consider if that discomfort exists because of another issue.

Sex

Look, your sex life is bound to fluctuate. When you first date, your body produces chemical reactions that make getting naked together exciting. But once you’re more comfortable around them, those reactions aren’t as strong.

Which is perfectly fine! There are tons of ways to spice things up in bed. If you’re not talking things out, though, that won’t happen.

Splitting Life’s Responsibilities

Don’t expect that you’ll naturally split things like chores, errands, and who will bathe your dog that week. Having this kind of conversation will make things clear for both of you who is expected to do what.

Without talking about this, you could risk building resentment when you’re the only one taking care of that adorable pooch you adopted during quarantine.

Expectations

Many couples benefit from talking about what they expect from each other in their relationship. This can mean emotionally or how they’ll show up during certain situations.

There are certain societal norms people think they need to fall into (along with their partner) based on their gender. But it’s 2021. Couples are switching up their masculine and feminine energies all the time.

Stress

Stress happens. All the time. But how you handle it will vary greatly from your partner. That’s why it’s great to have a conversation about stress.

That way, you can better understand your partner, how you can help them, and what they struggle most with.

Maybe you’ve had all these conversations with your partner before. If so, kudos to you! My boyfriend and I practice radical honesty, and I bring up everything that’s on my mind without hesitation.

It’s worked well for me. Perhaps it could work well for you, too.

This week’s activity: Which topic do you struggle talking about? Why do you think it’s important to feel more comfortable talking about that topic?

Reply and let me know!

Until next week ❤️

All the love,

Kirstie