New Year's Resolutions for Love in 2022
Hey hopeful romantic,
By the time this newsletter makes its way to you, it’ll be New Year’s Eve.
And although a new year is just a construct (aka, tomorrow isn’t more special than any other day), it’s still powerful to have set ideas that you want to implement within the next 365 days of your life.
You might be thinking about finally applying to grad school or squeezing more veggies into your diet, which, kudos to you. Those are great resolutions.
But have you considered setting resolutions for your love life?
No? Perfect. That’s exactly what I want to talk about this week.
But before that: I have a big ask from you if you’ve bought and read my book.
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Now back to resolutions!
A thriving love life isn’t easy, especially when we’ve learned a lot of unhealthy dating habits while growing up. It sucks to feel overwhelmed, unheard, and desperate when it comes to love.
That’s what antiquated dating advice will do to you.
But taking your love life from struggle city to something you feel proud of starts with becoming aware of what needs to change.
So if you want to turn your romantic life around, I’d suggest giving these resolutions a try:
I’ll communicate my expectations rather than assuming my partner can read my mind.
I’ll act like myself on dates because if someone leaves, then they’re not for me.
I’ll text my date or partner when I want to because someone turned off by a text isn’t a good match for me.
I will balance my dating life (or relationship) with seeing my friends and doing hobbies I love.
I’ll stop looking for a “spark” on the first date and give people 2-3 dates to see if a connection grows.
I’ll give things my best shot, but if I feel disrespected and/or my needs are constantly unmet, I’ll respect myself enough to walk away.
I’ll invest into myself the same, if not more, amount of energy I invest into my love life.
I’ll finally start believing I’m worthy of love.
Sure, these resolutions are much easier said than done, but they’re a starting point. By becoming clear on what you want to change, you can hone in on the resources and work that’s necessary to get there.
Let me know if you have any questions or want me to elaborate on these!
Until next week and happy new year!
All the love,
Kirstie
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Hi! I’m Kirstie
I help anxious people feel more confident in their love lives.
For over a decade, I was in one relationship after another with people who mistreated me or were emotionally unavailable. All of that ended when I took a year break from dating and read a book called Attached.
Learning about attachment styles changed my life. It opened doors like discovering my lack of boundaries and inability to ask for my needs to be met.
Today, I write (and soon, coach) to help people through the same journey. You don’t have to feel so anxious, insecure, and uncertain when it comes to love.
I want to help you feel confident and find the love you deserve.