Love is More Than Romance

May 07, 2021

Hey hopeful romantic,

One of the most confusing things you’ll encounter in your lifetime is love (and taxes, if you live in the US).

Trying to figure it out on your own is hard enough, not to mention the mixed messages you see in the media and receive from the people in your life. It’s not easy.

You might think love is someone running across the airport to tell you how much they cherish you one last time. But that, my friend, is simply romance. And only one small form, I might add.

All too often, people mistake romance for love. But they aren’t the same things. So let’s talk about why that is.

But first! I’m doing a giveaway! I want to say thank you for being a loyal reader and celebrate my newsletter hitting 2,500 subscribers.

That’s INSANE! I appreciate you so much!

As you might’ve guessed, I’m doing a giveaway of my book, What I Wish I Knew About Love. If you don’t already know, my book is broken up into four main sections: Breakups, Self-love, Dating, and Relationships.

To enter the giveaway, you must live in the United States and do two things:

Share this newsletter with two of your friends who you think could benefit from the content. You can simply forward it.
Reply to this email and let me know which of the four sections I mentioned you’re most interested in reading.

That’s it! I’ll pick 3 people randomly to send my book too!

Good luck, and I can’t wait to see which sections you all are most stoked about!

*I’ll be choosing winners this weekend!*

Love exists through the highs and lows.

Love may be repetitive at times; you’ll wake up every day next to each other the same way you did yesterday and the day before. But in the routine bits is where you’ll realize that love can last a lifetime; that there’s no one else you’d rather be doing life’s mundane tasks with.

Because no one can ride the highs of love their whole life; passion is great and all, but live in it for more than a few days, and you’ll become exhausted. Just like anything, love is bound to have its dull points.

But these moments will feel like your favorite routine. Simply because you’re doing it all with someone with them.

Love grows with every compromise.

You always hear people say, “nothing great comes easy,” and the same goes for love; it’ll be hard sometimes.

You should feel respected and cherished, but love means compromising on whose family you spend Christmas with. It means arguments and talking about difficult feelings like how you spend your money. It’s admitting you’re wrong and also learning to forgive when your partner accidentally hurts you.

Love is something you work on, and the reward is wholly worth it; having a person to enjoy the smallest moments in life is worth the work.

Love is having someone support you during hard times

There will be many people who stick around during the best times; you’ll never have trouble finding people to celebrate with you.

But coming across someone who stays, even when the lights turn off, and life becomes hard, is the best feeling in the world. Real love sticks around for the good, the bad, and the not-so-Instagram-worthy.

Love is reciprocal

There’s no “what can you do for me?” but rather, “what can we do for each other?”

Romance focuses on endlessly giving, even when it’s not something the person can afford, whether monetarily or emotionally. Romance wants to enjoy your happiness and receive your admiration at the moment, but it doesn’t want the rest.

It’s self-satisfying and the exact opposite of how love functions.

Love is a matter of balance between two people; when giving feels just as good as receiving.

I know that it’s easy to get caught up in the rush of feelings that come with romance. And by all means, please do so. But when the time comes that you’re ready for lasting love, do not confuse the guise of romance for something more.

While love can form out of romance, that doesn’t always happen.

Love is so much more than anything you see in the movies; it’s a lasting feeling, not an experience that ends once the credits start rolling.

This week’s activity: Since I’m doing a giveaway this week, I won’t have an activity. I’ll already be receiving many replies.

BUT, if you have any thoughts on this week’s post, feel free to let me know. I read every email I receive and try to reply to as many as I can.

Until next week ❤️

All the love,

Kirstie