Level-Up Your Self-Esteem ⬆️

Jul 30, 2021

Hey hopeful romantic,

Last week we talked about how self-worth can drastically affect your love life. And we can’t have that because not only are you full of worth, but you also deserve a 🔥 love life.

So how do you increase your self-worth? Let’s talk about it…

But first!

Do you wish the communication in your relationship was better? Do you want to feel more understood; more on the same page?

Then I have an excellent workshop for you!

I’m hosting a live workshop all about healthy communication. The workshop includes recent relationship studies, exercises, and tips to help you feel more heard in your relationship.

Like last time, tickets are limited, so make sure to grab yours soon!

Also, if you can’t make the live workshop, I will send out a recording after.

Grab Your Ticket

Now back to increasing self -worth…

Take care of your needs before anyone else.

When you expect other people to meet your needs, you’re giving away feeling secure in yourself. You don’t need someone else to take care of you or buy you the things you want.

That’s feeding into the idea that people will only do that if you’re worthy. Do it for yourself to show how worthy you inherently are.

Do something you love every. single. day.

Enjoying life shouldn't be reserved for the weekends. Do something that you enjoy every day. That could be face masks or reading a good book. Whatever that looks like to you, indulge. It’s that kind of gift to yourself that will remind you of your authentic self.

Invest money into things that make you proud.

I used to only spend money on things that I either needed or would advance my career/health. But then I started investing money into my hobbies like my plants and reading.

By doing that, I’m telling myself that my interests are meaningful and that they deserve to be invested into, even financially.

Create mini-goals (career/personal/friendships).

When you create and achieve goals, you’re creating two things: purpose and pride. Mixing those two is a perfect recipe for increasing your self-confidence while simultaneously improving your life.

Give more compliments and express appreciation.

You’re be surprised how giving kindness to others increases your happiness. And when you’re happier, you’re bound to be in a better mood and notice everything that makes you a great person.

Give yourself compassion when you’re struggling.

This self-confidence journey won’t be easy. You’ll get upset with yourself along the way. You’ll think you’re taking a step forward when really you’re taking a step backward. But all of that is fine as long as you’re kind with yourself along the way.

Consider how your past is affecting your future.

If you deeply struggle with self-confidence, consider what created those beliefs about yourself. Was it your parents? A particularly horrible partner? A friend or teacher who said horrid things to you?

Our past greatly affected who we are today, and understanding that can be key to changing any limiting beliefs you have about yourself.

See a therapist if things feel too overwhelming.

If reading all of this still feels like you don’t have the answer, then maybe therapy will do the trick. It’s great for making sense of our past and gaining tools to tackle life’s hardest obstacles.

Plus, nowadays, there are a lot of affordable options.

This week’s assignment: Commit to one of these self-confidence practices, even if you already feel pretty good about yourself. Note how you feel before doing them and then how you feel after. Then compare.

Until next week, my amazing reader.

All the love,

Kirstie