Let's Talk Compatibility
Hey hopeful romantic,
What do you think makes two people compatible?
Is it that they have similar interests? Or maybe that they never fight?
Or do you think it’s something you can’t put words to? That compatibility is simply when people click.
Well, I see compatibility differently. They’re several characteristics of a couple that make trying to navigate life together that much easier.
Do these guarantee relationship success? Not at all. If you don’t have these, is your relationship doomed? Hell no.
But knowing about these qualities can help you find a great partner with whom you have the potential to stand the test of time. Or help put your mind at ease with your current partner (because, hello, anxiety never ceases to make us worry even when we don’t need to).
You can show love in each other's love languages.
Or you’re working towards being able to. When you feel loved and cared for in a relationship, you’re less likely to feel resentment later on.
You have the same future goals.
I can’t fathom why two people prolong their pain by staying together with different life goals. These things matter, and having the same is a great sign you can build a life together.
You have lives outside of your relationship.
When both of you still prioritize your lives outside of the relationship, you feel happier, which trickles into your relationship. Continue to see your friends, pursue hobbies, and chasing your goals.
Your friends like them (and vice versa).
Friends can often be an objective view of your relationship. If your friends like your partner and your partner’s friends like you, that’s a great sign.
You respect each other's differences.
You don’t need to agree on everything, but you have to respect each other when you don’t agree. Without respect, what kind of relationship do you have?
You feel comfortable around them.
Our subconscious knows when something’s up, but it can be hard to tap into that. If you feel at ease and like you’re not walking on eggshells in your relationship, that’s because you know, deep down, you feel safe.
Is there something you’d add to this list? Everyone has specifics they look for in the person they date that help them determine compatibility. If so, reply to this email and let me know!
Until next week!
All the love,
Kirstie
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