It's Okay to Only Want a Serious Relationship
Hey, hopeful romantic!
I did an AMA (ask me anything) on my Instagram today.
Someone asked me if it’s okay that they’re not into casual dating or hookups.
It makes me so sad that they even had to ask. Because the resounding answer is: HELL YES, IT’S OKAY!
But I get why they asked.
Between social media and dating apps, hookup culture has been glamorized. (and don’t get me wrong, I’m not shaming hookups, casual dating, polyamory, or open relationships. To each their own!)
People think they need to be open to just “having fun” or sleeping with someone for a night because, well, that’s what everyone else is doing.
That the ideal position to be in is the one who “cares less.”
Hell, even I felt like something was wrong with me for never having a one-night stand (again, not hating on them!)
Because there are plenty of people out there that make you think that if you only want a serious relationship, you’re a “prude” or old school.
But that’s a them issue, not a you issue.
Everyone has different personalities, interests, favorite foods, and tastes in music. The same goes for what kind of relationship they’re comfortable with.
You’ll most likely come across at least one person who tries to push your boundaries or make you feel bad about not wanting what they want.
But that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. If anything, their lack of respect for you is the issue at hand.
Stick to what you’re comfortable with and forget about what everyone else is doing.
Feel free to reply and let me know your thoughts or experiences with this!
Until next week!
All the love,
Kirstie
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Hi! I’m Kirstie
I help anxious people who don’t feel good enough for love understand their worth and find fulfilling love.
For over a decade, I was in one relationship after another with people who mistreated me or were emotionally unavailable. All of that ended when I took a year break from dating and read a book called Attached.
Learning about attachment styles changed my life. It opened doors like discovering my lack of boundaries and inability to ask for my needs to be met.
Today, I write and coach to help people through the same journey. You don’t have to feel so anxious, insecure, and uncertain when it comes to love.
I want to help you feel confident and find the love you deserve.
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