Hey hopeful romantics,

Do you ever wonder why I switched to calling all of you hopeful romantics?

Well, there are a few reasons:

First, I assume you're all romantics if you like my writing. I'm not about playing games or talking crap about your partner or being petty. I'm about finding real, authentic love that feels good.

Second, I don't like the term hopeless romantic. It doesn't make sense to me. If you continue to want romance, that sounds pretty hopeful to me. And, I don't like the connotation that to want romantic love is a bad thing.

Third, you read my writing. If you resonate with everything above, then you probably resonate with the term hopeful romantic.

So today, I want to dive into the mindset between a hopeful romantic and a hopeless romantic. Especially since I think all of you should be hopeful romantics.

Hopeful vs. Hopeless

Dating is a journey. It only takes one person, not a hundred.

You have to kiss a bunch of frogs to find your prince (or princess), so to say. For some people, that makes them feel discouraged. And I think that's what differentiates hopeful and hopeless.

Maybe you've been on a hundred dud dates and can't fathom going on another. Perhaps you've been screwed over in the past that didn't love you like you deserve. Whatever it may be, I don't want you to lose hope that something better is out there.

Those people weren't rights gone wrong; they were never-meant-to-be's.

I don't believe in the notion "we were meant to be, and now they're gone" or "the one that got away." If you were meant to be with someone, you'd be with them. You can't dwell in a place of feeling like you missed out on your chance for love.

That relationship was merely a lesson, a learning experience of sorts. Be happy you had good moments and avoid anything that caused your bad moments in the future.

When you're desperate, you make poor choices.

Nothing good comes out of desperation. You'll begin to ignore red flags. You'll start to fantasize that every person who shows you an ounce of kindness is "the one."

But you have standards. You have boundaries. You have hope.

If you're negative, you'll bring around more negative energy.

I think we can all agree that hopeless has a negative connotation. Hopeful is much more positive.

When you're hopeless— believing that romantic love is something not meant for you— you'll draw more negativity into your life. Think of it this way: would you ideal partner be attracted to someone skeptical of love or given up on it completely?

That's why I say hopeful romantics rather than hopeless. I don't want you to give up hope. I know dating and relationships, and love can feel messy and hard at times, but don't give up hope. To be frank: things won't end well if you do.

I appreciate you being a loyal reader. As always, send me an email with any questions you have or to just say hi!

Until next week... stay sane & healthy.

All the love,


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