Hey there!
First-date nerves are pretty normal. But if you’re an anxious dater, you know that what you feel on a first date extends beyond jitters.
It’s the overthinking. It’s the constant worry you have broccoli in your teeth. It’s the incessant questioning of whether your date is having a good time.
And it’s not fun.
In an attempt to combat these first-date anxious thoughts, I want you to shake up what you do before your dates.
I want you to create a Pre-Date Ritual.
Oftentimes, people rush to get ready and head out the door for their date. Their bodies are already a bit activated due to the worry of being on time.
I want you to slow down and be intentional with how you spend your time before a date.
Think of at least three things you enjoy doing or put you in a better mood (that you can do at home or in your car).
Examples could be: listening to a certain playlist, calling a specific friend, repeating an affirmation, playing with your dog, meditating, or eating your favorite snack.
With those things in mind, create a pre-date ritual you’ll look forward to doing before your dates.
That way, you go into your dates more relaxed and, hopefully, in a less anxious mindset.
Challenge: Come up with your pre-date ritual and give it a try before your next date! You can also reply and let me know what your ritual consists of.
Until next week!
All the love,
Kirstie
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Hi! I’m Kirstie
I help anxious people who don’t feel good enough for love understand their worth and find fulfilling love.
For over a decade, I was in one relationship after another with people who mistreated me or were emotionally unavailable. All of that ended when I took a year break from dating and read a book called Attached.
Learning about attachment styles changed my life. It opened doors like discovering my lack of boundaries and inability to ask for my needs to be met.
Today, I write and coach to help people through the same journey. You don’t have to feel so anxious, insecure, and uncertain when it comes to love.
I want to help you feel confident and find the love you deserve.
Have a specific dating struggle you want to work with me on? Book a 1:1 session here.
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