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Feel anxious about first dates? Try this!

Let's talk about a thing called a Pre-Date Ritual.

Kirstie Taylor
Jul 22, 2022
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Hey there!

First-date nerves are pretty normal. But if you’re an anxious dater, you know that what you feel on a first date extends beyond jitters.

It’s the overthinking. It’s the constant worry you have broccoli in your teeth. It’s the incessant questioning of whether your date is having a good time.

And it’s not fun.

In an attempt to combat these first-date anxious thoughts, I want you to shake up what you do before your dates.

I want you to create a Pre-Date Ritual.

Oftentimes, people rush to get ready and head out the door for their date. Their bodies are already a bit activated due to the worry of being on time.

I want you to slow down and be intentional with how you spend your time before a date.

Think of at least three things you enjoy doing or put you in a better mood (that you can do at home or in your car).

Examples could be: listening to a certain playlist, calling a specific friend, repeating an affirmation, playing with your dog, meditating, or eating your favorite snack.

With those things in mind, create a pre-date ritual you’ll look forward to doing before your dates.

That way, you go into your dates more relaxed and, hopefully, in a less anxious mindset.


Challenge: Come up with your pre-date ritual and give it a try before your next date! You can also reply and let me know what your ritual consists of.

Until next week!

All the love,

Kirstie

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Hi! I’m Kirstie

I help anxious people who don’t feel good enough for love understand their worth and find fulfilling love.

For over a decade, I was in one relationship after another with people who mistreated me or were emotionally unavailable. All of that ended when I took a year break from dating and read a book called Attached.

Learning about attachment styles changed my life. It opened doors like discovering my lack of boundaries and inability to ask for my needs to be met.

Today, I write and coach to help people through the same journey. You don’t have to feel so anxious, insecure, and uncertain when it comes to love.

I want to help you feel confident and find the love you deserve.

Have a specific dating struggle you want to work with me on? Book a 1:1 session here.

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