Do You Feel Like You're Not Enough?
Hey hopeful romantic,
I’m writing this newsletter before leaving for a photoshoot. Well, not just any photoshoot. My photoshoot, to be exact.
For the past few months, I’ve been working on a merch line for anxious lovers. I’m creating it for people who are sick of being told they’re too emotional or needy to find love.
There’s nothing wrong with being someone who feels and loves deeply. So I’m making clothes to remind people that it’s OK to wear your heart on your sleeve (or sweater, to be exact).
I can’t wait for you all to see them!
But before I head out, let’s talk about something called scarcity mindset.
When people are scared of the unknown or fear being alone, they believe resources are very, very limited. If one person has something, it takes away from their share.
That mindset can manifest in a lot of scenarios. You might watch your co-worker get a raise and feel like your chances of getting one significantly decreased. Or maybe watching people get engaged makes you think the pool of potential partners is shrinking.
A scarcity mindset is one reason people think they’re not “good enough” for love. It causes them to focus on what others have rather than everything they have.
“If I was only prettier/smarter/more fun….”
But that’s far from the truth. You don’t need to become “more” for love. What needs changing is your mindset. So when you think these limiting ideas about yourself, I want you to replace them:
“I’m not enough” becomes “I am enough, and I know it.”
“I’ll never find love” becomes “I will find love when the time is right.”
Fears are tempting to live within because they trick you into thinking they’ll keep you safe. But all they end up doing is make you feel worse and hold you back.
I hope this helped open your eyes to some of the self-beliefs you might have!
Until next week!
All the love,
Kirstie
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