Conversation Scripts for Common Dating Scenarios

Hey there!

Finding the words to express what you want to say ISN’T EASY, especially if you’re an overthinker.

So I’ve compiled a few conversation/text scripts for some of the most common dating scenarios. Think of these more as frameworks, though; you can totally put them into words that feel more *you.*

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The exclusive talk (in-person).

“I’ve been enjoying going on dates with you! I’m at the point where I’d like to be exclusive with each other— as in, only dating and being physical with each other. How do you feel about that?”

The unmet needs talk.

“I’ve been feeling uncared for lately. I miss when you used to check up on me throughout the day [insert specific action]. Can you start doing that again?”

“I’ve been feeling distant from you lately. Can we do something together this weekend?”

The asking someone out talk.

“I’d love to get to know you more over drinks. Are you interested?”

“You mentioned a cool restaurant you’ve wanted to go to. Would you want to go together?”

The ghosting talk.

“It’s understandable if you didn’t think we’re a good match, but I don’t appreciate being ghosted. Next time, please give someone the respect of a simple text message.”

The “not a good match” talk.

“I’ve enjoyed getting to know you, but I don’t feel a romantic connection between us. I wish you the best, though!”

“It’s been fun hanging out, but a romantic connection isn’t there for me, and I feel like you might sense the same. I’m open to being friends if that’s of interest to you! If not, I understand.”

The “off-energy” talk.

“I’ve noticed your communication has been different lately. Are you still interested in seeing each other?”

The “haven’t heard from them” talk.

“Hey, it’s been a while since I’ve heard from you. Just wanted to check in and see if you’re still interested in planning another date?”

The love languages talk.

“I feel most cared for when you say sweet things to me/hold my hand/help me fix things around the house. I just wanted to let you know that. How do you feel most cared for?”

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Have more specific situations you’d love a conversation script for? Reply and let me know. I can help you come up with one!

Until next week!

All the love,

Kirstie

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Hi! I’m Kirstie

I help anxious people who don’t feel good enough for love understand their worth and find fulfilling love.

For over a decade, I was in one relationship after another with people who mistreated me or were emotionally unavailable. All of that ended when I took a year break from dating and read a book called Attached.

Learning about attachment styles changed my life. It opened doors like discovering my lack of boundaries and inability to ask for my needs to be met.

Today, I write and coach to help people through the same journey. You don’t have to feel so anxious, insecure, and uncertain when it comes to love.

I want to help you feel confident and find the love you deserve.

Have a specific dating struggle you want to work with me on? Book a 1:1 session here.