But Did YOU Like Them?
Hey hopeful romantic,
A common thing I hear from anxious daters is that they quickly obsess over new people they date.
Which hit home because I’d go on a couple of dates with someone and start imagining what they’d be like as the father of my kids. *cringe*
That’s a not-so-fun side effect of being hopeful romantics who overthink.
When we become too quickly attached to someone new, we risk devastation if things don’t work out or, worse, we overlook the red flags waving clearly in our faces.
So my question to you is: on the first and even second date, where is your head at?
Are you worried about what your date thinks of you? Are you obsessing about looking cool and saying the right things?
I have a tool for you that I use with all my clients.
But first.. my new dating show is premiering on February 3rd!
It’s a live dating show that you can join to not only ask questions but also interact with the audience and me while we talked about healthy and not-so-healthy dating advice.
And share stories because, why not!
It’s going to be a lot of fun, plus, I’m doing a giveaway of 5 copies of my book, What I Wish I Knew About Love at the end!
Wanna join? Then…
The Post-Date Check-In.
Part of taking your power back as an anxious dater is considering how you felt on your date.
The Post-Date Check-In consists of questions you can answer after meeting up with someone new.
How did I feel about the date? Did my date make me feel comfortable? Or was I anxious?
Did anything about them rub me the wrong way? If so, what was it, and why?
What’re three things I liked about my date?
And last, how could I have enjoyed the date more?
The Post-Date Check-In covers two things:
We ensure you’re checking in with your intuition on whether your date seemed like a genuinely good person.
We also focus your brains more on the positives, including having fun!
While I want people who tend to obsess over their dates to reel it back and take things at a calmer pace, I also don’t want you to become overly critical.
Consider how you felt, the negatives AND positives, and focus on having fun. Dating should be enjoyable, not this anxious process you’re dying to end finally.
Have you gone on a date recently? Feel free to reply to this email and tell me your answers to the Post-Date Check-In!
Until next week!
All the love,
Kirstie
P.S. I have 2 more spots open for 1:1 coaching.
If you want to take your power back in dating, build your self-worth, and finally find a fulfilling relationship, I can help you do that.
You can book a free discovery call here to learn more about how I can support you.
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Hi! I’m Kirstie
I help anxious people who don’t feel good enough for love understand their worth and find fulfilling love.
For over a decade, I was in one relationship after another with people who mistreated me or were emotionally unavailable. All of that ended when I took a year break from dating and read a book called Attached.
Learning about attachment styles changed my life. It opened doors like discovering my lack of boundaries and inability to ask for my needs to be met.
Today, I write and coach to help people through the same journey. You don’t have to feel so anxious, insecure, and uncertain when it comes to love.
I want to help you feel confident and find the love you deserve.
Want to learn more about working with me? Book a discovery call.