Are You Proud of Yourself?

Oct 08, 2021

Hey hopeful romantic,

This week I hosted my all-new, revamped Anxious Attachment workshop, and it went SO WELL!

I’m proud of myself because I received a lot of feedback from people telling me how much my workshop helped them. People said things like, “I finally feel seen” and “I’m excited to start doing these exercises!”

I don’t say this to brag. I say this to lead into why I’m in your inbox this week. For a long time, I would’ve done something like my successful workshop and never stopped to actually appreciate it.

The workshop would’ve ended, and I’d be onto my next project.

I know many people don’t take the time to celebrate their wins, so I’m bringing it to your awareness.

Part of struggling with an anxious attachment, anxiety, or not feeling confident is that we focus on everything we lack. Sure, we might accomplish a goal, but as soon as we do, we set our sights on the next goal.

Which perpetuates this feeling of never being good enough.

So my question for you is: how many things have you done in the past few weeks that you feel proud of?

It can be as small as finally pressure washing your backyard, which is actually one of my proud moments. Perhaps it’s completing a tough assignment at work or being there for a friend who was struggling.

If you’re having trouble with thinking of any, that’s OK. It’s merely a sign that you’re in a scarcity mindset (focused on comparison and everything you still need to do). We can get you out of this.

Homework: Start keeping a list of the things you do that move you forward in life. Nothing is too big or small.

Over time, this will shift your awareness to focusing on the good that’s in your life. When you start to notice the positives more, you’ll end up giving yourself a confidence boost.

Which, if you’re someone with an anxious attachment, will feel really f*cking good. Imagine showing up to dates having more to talk about, and finally believing you’re enough?

Give it a try! Let me know how it goes if you want.

Until next week.

All the love,

Kirstie